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    Home » Vegan lifestyle resources

    Getting vegan meals at a non-vegan wedding

    Updated: Apr 24, 2023 · Published: May 17, 2019 by Cadry Nelson · This post contains affiliate links. As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases. · 14 Comments

    Text: How to get a vegan meal at a non-vegan wedding. Plate with spaghetti squash.

    Wedding season is upon us. If you are vegan and heading to a non-vegan wedding, how can you be sure that your stomach won’t be grumbling through the toasts?

    (Toast? Oh, man. Now you’re really hungry!)

    Here are tips & tricks that have worked for me to make sure you don’t go through the reception hungry.

    Tulle and flowers on banister at wedding.

    When you’re vegan and going to the wedding of non-vegan friends or family, it can feel a little like getting on an international flight.

    You don’t know if the vegan meal you requested will be there, if it will be given to someone else by accident. Or if you’ll find out once you’re seated and unable to leave that the only vegan option is baby carrots.

    While there are vegans who decide to make a meal of the open bar instead, that can get ugly fast. A wedding and reception can go on for hours, so it’s best to be prepared.

    The truth is, I rarely get in the car for an hour drive without at least a banana in tow. So I am especially careful when it comes to social engagements, in which I don’t have any control over the food.

    Plus, who knows if the chef will get the message since it’s being relayed second or third hand?

    Being vegan in a non-vegan world often means advocating for yourself. That is also true when it comes to being sure that you have sustenance at social gatherings.

    With weddings, it’s a tricky balance.

    On the one hand, you don’t want to pile on added stress to the happy couple while they are knee deep in wedding planning.

    On the other, you want to avoid them paying for a meal that you won’t eat.

    And finally, you want to be sure that you take care of yourself & your own needs.

    In this post:

    Jump to:
    • Top four tips
    • What about a formal sit-down dinner?
    • What about buffets at a non-vegan wedding?
    • Pre-eat
    • Smuggle

    Top four tips

    1. Ask the betrothed couple ahead of time if there will be/can be vegan options. Or make a note on your RSVP card.
    2. Eat before you go. Things don’t always go according to plan. So it’s good to not be overly hungry.
    3. Prepare your own snacks in case things go awry (or if it’s a case where you don’t feel comfortable making a special request to the happy couple.) Bring the snacks in a bag or keep them in your hotel room if you’re nearby.
    4. Look for restaurant options in the area, where you can sneak away for food if needed. Happy Cow is a great place to find nearby vegan options.
    Name card on plate at wedding reception.

    What about a formal sit-down dinner?

    A sit-down dinner is the best case scenario. When meals are being prepared individually, guests tend to have a voice in terms of what they receive.

    Very often couples will give guests a choice on the RSVP card. So there’s a chance to write in your needs.

    When one of David’s co-workers got married, it was a formal wedding. There was a cocktail hour followed by sit-down meal.

    When we RSVP’d for the wedding, there was a meal card with a few options. Along with a couple of meaty choices, there was a box for a vegetarian meal.

    There was also a line for adding any additional dietary restrictions. We ticked the box for vegetarian and noted vegan after that. Then in the dietary restrictions part, we said that we don’t eat meat, dairy, or eggs.

    After that, David spoke with his co-worker in casual conversation and said that we’d sent in our RSVP. She assured him that vegan meals wouldn’t be a problem.

    Sure enough, once we got to the reception, our place cards had little pictures of mushrooms on them, denoting that we’d be receiving the vegetarian option. Also on the card, it said, “Dietary restriction.”

    Our server visited our table once meals were going out to check that we were the people at her table with special meals.

    (You may notice that my name is different on the place card. The couple didn’t realize that I kept my last name when I got married.)

    Salad with apples & strawberries at wedding reception.

    First, we received the same salads as everyone else, but ours came without the feta topping.

    Next, we received spaghetti squash in pasta sauce with mushrooms.

    Spaghetti squash on plate with wine in background at wedding reception.

    Unsurprisingly, the wedding cake wasn’t vegan. However, the server went out of her way to bring us tea instead. She seemed to honestly care that we were taken care of.

    Since we weren’t family or in the bridal party, I was really touched by the extra care and attention that obviously went into making sure we had meals.

    So in this case, we didn’t need the snacks that I had in our nearby hotel room refrigerator.

    Since we were just a couple of blocks away, it wouldn’t have been hard to walk back to grab a quick bite before returning for dancing.

    Still, when it comes to weddings, it’s better to have back-up food available and not need it than need it and not have it.

    What about buffets at a non-vegan wedding?

    When it comes to buffets at weddings, the chances of finding something vegan are often less promising.

    Although there are salads and side dishes, very often those include cheese.

    It can also be more difficult to track someone down to ask questions about what’s in the various sauces.

    David and I have done a couple of different things when the wedding will be a buffet.

    Cadry sitting at table at Block 16.

    Pre-eat

    First, I’d recommend that you don’t arrive at the reception too hungry. That way if there happens to be something vegan on the buffet line, great. But if not, you won’t be ravenous.

    For one wedding, in which we’d been told by the groom that there would be nothing vegan on the buffet line, we went out for dinner between the wedding and reception.

    There was an hour or two gap between them. So there was plenty of time to get something to eat and then return at the cocktail hour.

    In that case, the reception was in an old Victorian mansion. People were going through the buffet line at their leisure. So it didn’t seem strange that we weren’t eating with everyone else.

    Cadry and David at wedding reception.
    Sandwich hidden in purse.

    Smuggle

    Another time we smuggled sandwiches in my purse.

    I figured if luck was on our side and there was something vegan, we’d save the sandwiches for another time. If not, we had back up.

    When it was our table’s turn to go through the line, we grabbed plates. We picked up the only vegan items on the buffet – bell peppers and cucumbers.

    Then we returned to our table. And I unfolded the sandwiches I’d brought.

    Sandwich on paper plate with bell peppers, cucumbers, and carrots.

    Everyone was so involved in the festivities, no one noticed or cared what was on our plates, which is exactly what we wanted.

    Obviously, the most important thing at a wedding is being there to witness a couple beginning a new life together. The food is secondary.

    Still, it’s best to take care of yourself and make sure your needs are met by making a note on your RSVP card, not arriving too hungry, pre-eating, or even smuggling.

    Trust me. It’s a lot easier to do the Cupid Shuffle on a full stomach.

    Have you had any experiences (good or bad) in regards to getting a vegan meal at a non-vegan wedding?

    Originally posted July 2016. Content updated May 2019.

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    1. AJ

      February 25, 2020 at 9:00 pm

      Thanks for your post. Question: I have my grandmothers 80th party coming up and my family choose to celebrate at a restaurant buffet. After calling there is no way they can make an accommodate my dietary restrictions expect a side salad. I prefer not paying the full price of the buffet. Suggestions or advice? Would you pay the expensive price of the buffet and eat the side salad or attend but eat before arriving (which may be a little strange sitting with everyone without food?).
      Thank you

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      • Cadry

        February 25, 2020 at 9:19 pm

        Given those two options, I would eat before arriving. I would hate to pay an inflated price for a side salad. You could come a little late, so that you won’t be sitting alone at the table while people are going through the buffet line or just starting into their meals. It is a little awkward. But I’ve done similar things at family functions at places like the Machine Shed, where there’s simply not anything for vegans. My husband and I just had tea, and then we went out for lunch on our own afterwards. Best of luck, AJ!

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    2. Susan

      July 14, 2016 at 9:22 pm

      I have been fairly well looked after at weddings, and even though there have been the ubiquitous salad, veggie stack and fruit salad at times, I have never had nothing. But I am still always prepared.
      I went to a conference last week and I had written vegan on my registration form.
      It started out promising, for morning tea everyone had vegan acai and granola cups!
      But the buffet at lunch was appalling, the only vegan thing was the fruit. Though the chef did give me a plate of lettuce and tomatoes at one point. Thankfully I had packed a noodle cup, some Primal Strips and lots of snack bars, so I was great. Plus I took almost all the strawberries from the buffet. No regrets!

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      • Cadry

        July 15, 2016 at 10:17 am

        Oh, my gosh. I’m glad you had packed a noodle cup and other snacks. It would have been uncomfortable trying to get through the day on fruit, tomatoes, and lettuce alone. I don’t blame you for nabbing most of the strawberries!

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    3. Amey

      July 13, 2016 at 5:12 pm

      Once I went to a wedding – one of musty’s friends – and for various reasons, there was no opportunity for me to mention that I was vegan. It was a buffet, and it was in the South, and I just knew there wouldn’t be anything for me to eat (there wasn’t). I brought a clif bar and my leftover falafel plate from dinner. Ha ha. I replated it so that it looked a little less obvious.

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      • Cadry

        July 15, 2016 at 10:15 am

        That sounds familiar to me! Did you blog about it?

        Reply
    4. Mary Ellen @ VNutrition

      July 12, 2016 at 11:22 am

      These are great ideas Cadry! I was just at a wedding and realized I didn’t put down that I was vegan. I figured they’d know because we’re friends but when planning a wedding people are so busy they might forget. Luckily they had a great veggies and quinoa meal for me!

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      • Cadry

        July 12, 2016 at 1:41 pm

        Oh, good! I’m so glad to hear that you were well fed.

        Reply
    5. Kelli

      July 10, 2016 at 3:01 pm

      This is a great post, Cadry! You show how easily – with a minimal amount of checking & planning – it is to remain vegan in (fancy) social situations. Yet another excuse removed from people who say they “can’t” remain vegan because of life situations.

      And it’s so important to remember what the real reason for being there is – to see two people committing themselves, not the meal 🙂 I read an article in the NYT a while back about veg weddings and I was just shocked at how many people complain about not having animals served and how they had to sneak out for a burger during the reception. Seriously? They can’t handle one meal without meat?

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      • Cadry

        July 12, 2016 at 1:39 pm

        Thanks, Kelli! When it comes to being vegan in any situation, I always say that if you’re looking for an excuse not to be vegan, you can always find one. But once you are convinced, you never need one. When eating meat just isn’t an option, you’ll find a way to make it work.

        You’re so right that the real reason everyone is there has nothing to do with a meal anyway. That’s really unfortunate about the NYT article. It always strikes me as odd that the people who are most critical of vegans for “limiting” themselves are often the people most unwilling to do something out of their norm for a meal. It’s strange to me, because even when I ate meat, I had no problem trying something different. It might be a cuisine that was new to me or a different way of eating, and to me, it was an adventure and a way to explore a new idea. I had plenty of veggie burgers before I went vegetarian, because they were easy, inexpensive, and tasty.

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    6. Little Vegan Bear

      July 09, 2016 at 7:59 pm

      I love the little mushroom placecards! Cute. The last wedding I went to I was taken care of really well – with my own antipasto platter minus any cheese, polenta cakes and veggies and a fruit platter for dessert. It’s hard to know what to expect in those situations so it’s great to be looked after!

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      • Cadry

        July 11, 2016 at 10:58 am

        I thought the place cards were cute too and a great way to quickly get across meal choices. It sounds like you had an amazing wedding experience at the last one you attended! You can’t beat an antipasto platter, main course, and even dessert.

        Reply
    7. Heather

      July 08, 2016 at 11:51 am

      Great post Cadry!

      I am an Conference and Event Planner and when our clients are planning a Buffet we ensure them that we are able to accommodate any dietary restrictions or preferences (Gluten Free, Nute Free, Vegan) with a Plated Meal. I know most venues are willing to do the same – you would simply want to include a note of your restriction / preference when RSVP’ing to the Event. Many Chef’s and Planners appreciate the advance notice instead of scurrying the day of 🙂 and never want to see a Guest go hungry not eat especially if they are willing to be accommodating.

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      • Cadry

        July 08, 2016 at 11:56 am

        That’s great insight, Heather. Thanks for sharing!

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